People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
Thich Nhat Hahn
Life is not always pleasant. Some of the time it just plain sucks. Sometimes when life is out of balance – more bad in it than good – I believe it’s time for a review: What am I doing to attract all this negative energy into my life? How can I change to attract/allow more positive energy into my life? Are there old, unresolved angers inside my heart? Is there bitterness, jealousy, or resentment toward others, toward God, toward myself? Do I really want more positive in my life or do I secretly enjoy being a martyr? Do I take pleasure in other people’s misery? Do I even think about other people or other creatures? Do I wish for their well-being or do I just not care? And finally, is there some pain and suffering I refuse to let go of?
While I have a deep and abiding faith in God, I do believe that I am the author of most of the misery in my life. Bad choices, old anger, envy, self-doubt, and other yukky things that dwell in my heart and head attract the negative to me. Some of these things will never go away – they are a part of being human – and as I acknowledge them, they have little power over me and I can work on them little by little so I don’t carry them with me to the grave.
But there are other things – like willingly hanging on to suffering because it is all I know – or all I think I know – and because I am afraid of what will happen to me if I stop hating this person or stop rehashing the thing that caused me so much grief and sorrow over and over again. When I choose to keep hating or rehashing I am inviting negative activity into my life. As life begets life so too does death beget death. The more I think it, the more I live it.
So I must choose to let go of those things that caused me pain and suffering in the past, and saying to myself as often as I need to: “By the Grace of God’s Love for me I am healed from that injury and I am working toward forgiveness for that person.”
No caveats, no ‘if’, ‘ands’ or ‘buts’, no reasoning allowed. Only faith in the One Who Loves me, Loves the other person (yes, the one who hurt me) as well and being human I am in no place to judge them.
I choose to let go of the pain in my life and let God be God in my life and in that other person’s life.
I want to share with you a post from another blogger…and ask you to remember to pray for all of the family involved, yes, even for the family who did such an awful thing…