When you can tell the story and it doesn’t bring up any pain, you know it is healed.
– Lyanla Vanzant
I love this quote. Plain and simple, I love this quote. It speaks volumes in so few words. When you ask ‘how can I heal from this terrible tragedy that has befallen me?’ the answer is to talk about it.
My own story still brings up pain for me. But because I have spent my entire adult life telling the story in different ways the pain is much less than when I first started talking about it. Telling your story doesn’t have to mean standing on a stage, or on a street corner, or accosting a close friend or neighbor with your horror. You can also tell your story through writing and through all the many mediums of art or even through gardening or crafting and whatnot.
The point is to be active – to get it up and out of the depths of your soul, consciously channeling the pain through woodworking or embroidery or digging holes for spring bulbs and summer vegetables. You have to make a conscious decision to heal from your wounds and then trust yourself to find the right outlet.
A rape victim may heal herself by taking self defense or boxing classes. With every hit or punch she takes back a piece of herself – even if she never says a word aloud. A teen-aged boy may heal himself by drawing or writing or creating music that reflects the depth his pain. A veteran may find healing from war by helping rescue abandoned and abused animals.
The point of the action is to heal and to make a conscious effort toward that end. Of course a person may do all these things and never be healed but maybe they never recognized the need of healing.
If you are wounded in any way, ask yourself the best way for you to seek healing. Trust in your choices, go forth in prayer, and the Light of Love will work with you and through you and over time, you will be healed.
Here are some of the many ways of working toward healing. Click on the image for the link.